In this article, I’ll go over how a Montessori weaning table and weaning chair play a role in a child’s development, why they are used by Montessori parents, and how to implement these Montessori furniture items.
What is a Montessori weaning table?
Before this time, children are only familiar with their nutrition being served to them via methods like a bottle or breast. Discovering that they can now grasp for foods and have more control over tastes and textures is very exciting for them.
Put simply, a weaning table set is a small table with a chair that a young child is able to freely climb in and out of and sit upright at without adult intervention. There are many things to consider before deciding if a weaning table is right for your family.
Why choose a weaning table instead of a high chair?
Young children have an innate desire to be able to do as much as possible independently. Child size furniture helps fulfill this desire.
Not only does a weaning table allow for independence at meal time as it relates o being able to independently get in out of their seat, it affords children added opportunities for Practical Life activities.
Here are some Practical Life activities that can be done at a weaning table:
- setting the table
- making flower arrangement for table prior to a meal
- clearing the table
- washing the table and chairs
- Grace and Courtesy activities
Weaning tables also provide the opportunity for early Control of Movement activities:
- moving the chair quietly
- carrying food to and from the table without spilling or dropping anything
An additional benefit of Montessori weaning tables is that they can be easily repurposed, even between meals. Many Montessori parents choose to utilize their small table and chairs for activities during the time they are not being used for eating.
After a child has outgrown the weaning table, or outgrown the desire to eat at the weaning table, it can take its permanent place somewhere else in the house.
The choice between using a weaning table and a weaning chair instead of a high chair is a personal preference. Ultimately, each individual family will choose the best way for them.
The benefits of using a high chair for babies and a booster for toddlers are that the child is kept safely in one place with no chance of falling and that parents have more control over mealtimes; less redirection.
Small furniture and the Montessori approach to weaning
Montessori encourages developmentally appropriate independence in all things. This “early” independence leads to increased enjoyment of activities often considered by children to be tedious.
Enjoyment of meals and the sense of pride and self-worth should be introduced along side of a child’s first finger foods.
Montessori parents often choose a method of weaning called ‘baby-led weaning‘. This means that instead of introducing purees when a baby shows all the signs of being ready for solid foods, a baby is introduced to finger foods and utensils.
Many parents find that involving their children in meal preparation and giving them independence with serving and eating helps stave off picky eating, in addition to all the other benefits.
In Montessori toddler classrooms, you will find children gathered at a small table for snack and meal times. The children are happy and enjoying the process and the teacher is simply tasked with assisting where needed.
Are real dishes used at a weaning table?
You may have heard that Montessori encourages the use of real dishes at meal times; ones made of a natural material, like porcelain, glass, bamboo, or stainless steel. These materials provide a control of error for children.
The control of error when a breakable or natural material item drops to the floor is that it either breaks or makes a disruptive noise when it hits the floor. Obviously, this is true when real dishes fall from a highchair, as well.
The difference is in what happens when a real dish falls from a weaning table vs from a high chair. Strapped into a high chair, a child does not have control over cleaning spills or breaks.
Every time something is spilled or a dish breaks and a child is not able to help, a Practical Life opportunity is missed and ownership over a portion of the mealtime gets transferred to an adult.
When children eat from plastic plates and drink from sippy cups, there is not the added risk of breakage involved and therefore, less opportunity for learning.
Along with real, but child size dishes, regular metal silverware is introduced to children at the weaning table.
How to get a toddler to sit for meals at a small table
It is a common concern for families who are considering a weaning table that their child will not sit for meals. Here are some things you can do to help your child’s first time at their weaning table be a success.
- do not have the child sit until it is time to start eating
- eliminate snacking within 1-2 hours prior to meal time
- have consistent meal and snack times every day
- see that your child is comfortable in their seat
- make sure your child’s feet are able to touch flat on the floor (check seat height)
- be clear about meal time expectations (the meal is over if they get up, ect.)
- have realistic expectations about how long is appropriate for a child to sit still
When choosing a weaning table and chair set , here are characteristics to look for:
- furniture items are heavy (not easily tipped)
- made of solid wood, well made
- measurements that suit your child’s frame and account for physical growth
- cube chairs are optimal for babies and very young toddlers
Many parents are pleasantly surprised to find that if a child is given a higher level of freedom and involvement in meal times, they are happy to sit at their small table and they actually stay seated to finish their meal.
This was my personal experience, as well. Mealtimes were far more pleasant when we switch from a high chair to a weaning table.
They became something the whole family looked forward to.
Can we have a weaning table and still have meals at the family table?
Meals times are important for conversation and bonding. The idea of a weaning table gives many parents the image of children eating separately from the rest of the family.
There is no need to give up family meals times when you introduce a weaning table, however. Not only would it be awkward and possibly upsetting to the parents, child, or both, but it would be unsafe, especially for very young toddler.
This is not the idea behind weaning tables at all.
Some families choose to implement the Montessori weaning table for certain meals. Other families choose to only allow snack times to happen at the low table, then meals happen at the main table with the whole family.
Is there such thing as a Montessori-aligned high chair?
Many Montessori families choose to implement a weaning table and a high chair simultaneously. For many of these families, a Montessori-aligned high chair is desirable.
A trip trap style high chair is a high chair that has steps leading up the seat portion of the device. This allows children the freedom to climb up the the seat themselves.
The child can the be buckled in for safety and a tray is then clipped on. When the child gets bigger, the trip trap high chair is scooted closer to the table and a tray is no longer used.
For many families, a weaning table is not desired. This type of high chair is a happy medium between a regular high chair and a weaning table.
Personal experience and conclusion
When my daughter was an only child, she enjoyed her small table and chairs so much that my husband and I would join her, sitting on pillows on the floor for meals.
When one child became three, she enjoyed serving her younger brothers and encouraging them to try new foods at the small table. My husband and I would sit at the main table, which was a few feet away.
The children now enjoy sitting at the family table with us and the weaning table is now used for arts and crafts.
As previously stated, whether you choose a Montessori weaning table is up to you. I encourage parents to give weaning furniture a try, though.
Weaning tables are really a wonderful way to show a child they are respected, valued members of your household, worthy of furniture that suits their small size.
Does your child use small furniture for snacks or mealtimes? If so, what has your experience been?
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